The “Choose Me” Spiritual Wound — A Lightworker’s Burden
If any of this sounds familiar, you are not alone.
There is a wound that many Lightworkers, witches, empaths, and sensitives carry quietly. It doesn’t scream—it whispers. It doesn’t announce itself—it lingers. I call it the “Choose Me” wound. And if you’re reading this, chances are you’ve felt its ache.
I’ve lived with this wound my entire life. It has shaped my relationships, my career, my sense of self. It has made me physically ill—literally. A recent respiratory illness clung to me with a grip so tight, no herbal tincture or cold medicine could shake it loose. Not until I turned inward and addressed the energetic root did healing begin. That’s the power of this wound. It doesn’t just live in the mind—it embeds itself in the body, in the field, in the soul.
Where the Wound Lives: The Chakra Imprint
This wound is not random. It anchors itself in three of our most vital energy centers:
- Solar Plexus Chakra – Our seat of personal power. When we are not chosen, we question our worth.
- Heart Chakra – The center of love and connection. Rejection here feels like soul abandonment.
- Throat Chakra – The voice of our truth. When we are silenced or overlooked, we stop speaking our needs.
These centers govern how we show up in the world, how we relate to others, and how we create our reality. When the “Choose Me” wound is active, these chakras become distorted—overactive in some, shut down in others.
How the Wound Shows Up
This wound often begins in childhood. Maybe you weren’t the favored sibling. Maybe your gifts were misunderstood. Maybe you were simply too much for the world around you. The reasons vary, but the energetic pattern remains consistent.
Here’s how you might recognize it:
- You fall into people-pleasing, hoping to earn love through service
- You chase toxic relationships, trying to prove your goodness
- You break your own boundaries, then stew in resentment
- You rehearse confrontations in your mind, but never speak your truth
- You feel abandoned, even when surrounded by people
This is not weakness. This is a spiritual imprint—a magnetic pattern that draws in experiences to validate the belief: I am not chosen.
The Remedy: Shattering the Illusion
Healing begins when we stop asking others to choose us—and start choosing ourselves.
You may have been called “too sensitive,” “too intense,” “too aloof,” or “too intimidating.” These are projections, not truths. They are reflections of others’ discomfort with your light. And your light is not up for negotiation.
To heal, we must:
- Dive into the energy centers and clear the imprints of rejection
- Rewrite the story of why we weren’t chosen. Was it truly about us? Or about their inability to receive?
- Forgive—not to excuse, but to release. Forgiveness is the alchemy that transmutes pain into power
- Recognize transactional relationships and bless them for the clarity they offer
- Choose yourself—daily, fiercely, unapologetically
The Lightworker’s Path: From Loneliness to Sovereignty
Many Lightworkers live lonely lives—not because they are unlovable, but because they are misunderstood. Their empathy, their compassion, their depth—it intimidates. It challenges. It awakens.
But here’s the truth: You were never meant to be chosen by everyone. You were meant to be chosen by the few who can meet you in your fullness. And that begins when you choose yourself.
So if you feel the ache of this wound, know this: it is not a flaw. It is a sacred initiation. And you, dear soul, are not alone.
Journaling Prompts for Healing the “Choose Me” Wound
Settle into a quiet space. Light a candle, hold a crystal, or simply breathe deeply. Let these prompts guide you inward:
Solar Plexus – Empowerment & Worth
- When was the first time I remember feeling “unchosen”? What story did I create about myself in that moment?
- What beliefs do I hold about my worth that were shaped by others’ inability to choose me?
- What does it mean to choose myself today, in this moment?
Heart – Connection & Love
- Who have I given my heart to in hopes they would finally choose me? What did I sacrifice in that exchange?
- What does unconditional love feel like in my body? Have I ever offered that to myself?
- What relationships in my life feel reciprocal and nourishing? How can I nurture more of these?
Throat – Expression & Truth
- What truths have I silenced to remain “acceptable” or “lovable”?
- What would I say to someone who never chose me, if I knew I’d be fully heard?
- How can I begin speaking my needs and desires without fear of rejection?
🧘♀️ Integration & Release
- What patterns of people-pleasing or boundary-breaking do I notice in my life? Where do they stem from?
- What would my life look like if I fully believed I am worthy of being chosen—by myself and by others?
- What am I ready to forgive today? Who, or what, am I releasing from my energetic field?
Closing Ritual: Affirmation for Sovereignty
Speak this aloud, or write it into your journal with intention:
“I am worthy of being chosen. I choose myself first. I release the stories that kept me small. I forgive the past, and I open to the future. My energy is sacred. My truth is divine. I am whole.”
Let this be your invitation to begin. To unravel. To reclaim. You are not too much—you are precisely enough. And the world is waiting for the version of you that no longer begs to be chosen, but radiates from the knowing that you already are.
Are you ready to dive deeper and address those non-contributing beliefs energetically? This is your invitation to step into the Soul and Energy Studio where we can understand how these beliefs are playing our and where in the body they are anchored.
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